Choose What Kind of Old Person You Want to Be

When I’m old, I want to be in a weekly flash mob.

There is a book I’ll write some day…Choosing to Grow:  OLD. The tricky part will be that I don’t want to wait until I’m old. I know well enough that if I am going to age gracefully, it starts with the habits I have now.

Age happens, and there is nothing…did you hear me? NOTHING…we can do about it.

There are limited hours in the day, limited amounts of energy to expend, and we have to choose how we use the time we have.

My quick glance through Google this morning identified a problem. There are age-defying skin products, age-defying fashion tips, age-defying fitness programs, turn back the clock regimens, and BE YOUNGER ads everywhere. I am pretty sure this is a multi-gazillion dollar business. The movement afoot is about NOT aging.


What a waste of time! (and we’ve already established that we don’t have very much of it!)

The more time people spend trying to turn back a clock that is stubbornly moving forward, the less prepared they are for the inevitable future.

I would actually listen to a company that sold products to celebrate the age I am while helping me to plan for the age I will be.

I can hear the tagline now: “Be the best at the age you are…and plan to be the best at the age you will be.” Now I just need to find a product to go with it.  The thing is, I fear no one would buy it.  Everyone would rather just pretend they can make themselves younger rather than working to age gracefully.

So here we go…for those of you who want to choose to grow in a beautiful way through your life. Spend a few minutes thinking about these questions.

How do you envision yourself as an old person?

Will you be bitter? Will you be kind? Will you be like a neighbor I once had?

When we moved in, my neighbor Edna introduced herself with a plate of food and a hug. She winked at me when she told me she likes to hug people…especially if they don’t expect it. I adored Edna…and I want to be just like her when I grow old.

If you want some motivation to think like an old person now, check out this awesome article: Think like a senior citizen and supercharge your life with happiness.

We cannot change the momentum of aging, but we can choose how we approach the process.

You’ll have to excuse me, I have to go…I have a flashmob dance to practice.

Copyright  2012    Meagan Frank                           Choosing to Grow

15 thoughts on “Choose What Kind of Old Person You Want to Be

    • It IS a call to action. Aging will happen whether you sit through the entire thing, or you get up and embrace it with open arms. One requires moving…the other does not! MMF

  1. I love this! I’ve recently started to try and turn around the way I think about getting old, and to see my 40s as the chance to grow into the person I’ve always meant to be. I have parents who have been panicking about aging for the last 30 years, and I don’t want to live in that kind of fear and paralysis. Great and much needed post.

    • Cecilia, I love that you have a way you want to go through your 40s. I think its easy to panic about aging, but I think it’s much better to PLAN! I hope you have other people who can model how you’d like to be with aging. MMF

  2. I know exactly the type of old person I want to be and am on the course. I have a role model in mind – a second mother to me. A fantastic mother to three boys, adored by them all. Happy, real, fun to be around, liked to toss back a few.

  3. I love this. And I’m totally on board. To be honest, I think more short term right now. As in, how do I want to envision myself in the next 5 minutes? Do I want to feel good about the way I just handled my super obnoxious kids, or do I want to hate myself because I screamed at them again? I only ever used to think in the present–being guided by emotions I had AT THAT VERY TIME–and now I can say that I DO think ahead. And I hope with all hope that will only serve to make me into an old, aged, woman who is kind and happy and gives hugs to new neighbors.

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