On a recent vacation, I handed a homeless man $10. My family shrank behind me, unsure the gesture was the right thing to do.
“What are you going to do? Give every homeless person we see today $10?” my husband asked.
“No,” I postured in defense. “That was my last ten.”
On another day, I might give a ten I’m carrying, or a second half of a sandwich, or a bottle of water, or whatever I have in my car when I’m stopped long enough beside a stoplight panderer.
I can’t help myself. I see my dad in those outstretched hands.
My dad flailed on the streets for a time during the worst of his battles with mental health.
It’s a myth that every homeless person is afflicted with a mental illness, but the percentage is certainly higher than the general population. According to the American Psychological Association, “rates of mental illness among people who are homeless in the United States are twice the rate found for the general population (Bassuk et al., 1998). 47 percent of homeless women meet the criteria for a diagnosis of major depressive disorder—twice the rate of women in general (Buckner, Beardslee, & Bassuk, 2004).”
My dad was not the card-carrying type of panderer. If he had held a shockingly truthful sign, it would have read: “West Point graduate, disbarred attorney, father of four, suffering from depression, narcissism, and alcoholism. Need help.”
My dad has his demons and my risk of sharing them with him are increased simply because we’re related. In a 2010 issue of the YaleNews, Peter T. Morgan, M.D., associate professor of psychiatry at Yale School of Medicine said, “It’s been clear for a long time that children of alcoholics are at greatly increased risk for psychiatric disorders.”
If disorders are potentially genetic in nature, how far could the reach of mental health challenges go?
I’m a daughter of an alcoholic with a propensity for mood disorders. Ok. Awesome. It could be me. Any. Day. It could also mean the worry monster living in my daughter’s room is bigger and badder than I want to admit. Also awesome.
Mental health issues are all around us. The man who drove his car into a crowd of people in Times Square was hearing voices. A Florida man called 911 asking to be taken to a mental hospital to see his wife Taylor Swift. A recent teen suicide in Minnesota was painfully described in his obituary: “An intentionally quirky boy who wore size 12 shoes but never grew a whisker; took his life in a bad moment in time.”
This past year, suicide and mental health crises touched too many people I love.
What do I do with that? What do any of us do with that? Do we snuggle up in a corner with our own worry monsters and hope for the best or do we arm ourselves with as much awareness as we can?
I hate monsters. Awareness it is. I have too many reasons to want to become aware and, chances are, you do too. You may think you don’t engage with or know anyone with a mental illness, diagnosed or otherwise, but chances are you do.
Nearly one in five Americans suffer from mental health issues over the course of a year.
That percentage is too high to be ignored. We have a responsibility to one another to learn all we can about the real life stories of people and their experiences. Thankfully, the mental health conversation is getting louder, but we need to continue to share and listen to the stories that will open our eyes and grow necessary awareness.
Awareness is wanting to know what it looks like to walk alongside someone with mental illness so we are not tempted to retreat to the other side of the street.
RAISE YOUR AWARENESS
There are courageous battles being waged in households all over this country and there are books that tell important mental illness stories, pulling the curtains back from previously guarded windows. My most recent read:
Virginia Pillars’ book, Broken Brain, Fortified Faith: Lessons of Hope Through a Child’s Mental Illness, is a powerful memoir about her family’s journey leading up to, during, and after her daughter’s schizophrenia diagnosis. Virginia presents her pain, frustrations, confusion and intermingled hope with raw honesty. It is a beautiful example of how love and a deep-rooted faith can be powerful companions on the walk with mental illness.
In a past issue of Books Make a Difference magazine, I covered Kathy Brandt and Max Maddox’s co-written book, Walks on the Margin, about Max’s struggle with bipolar disorder. The book is an inspiring look at how awareness, treatment, and art moved him to a healthier place.
On my to read list is Mark Lukach’s recent release: My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward: A Memoir.Awareness about mental health issues is an ongoing endeavor. Sometimes it’s a decision to stay on the same side of the street as the outstretched hand and other times it’s a decision to stop by the house of a friend who is struggling. A willingness to learn from the stories being shared, is a step in the right direction. We all have reasons to engage in the mental health conversation, and I’m grateful for those brave souls who start the discussion by writing down their stories.
National Alliance on Mental Illness https://www.nami.org/
Copyright Choosing to Grow 2017 www.meaganfrank.com @choosingtogrow
2 thoughts on “Mental Health Awareness: My Reasons and Resources”
Once again, I’m inspired by your honesty, sharing and your loving heart. You make the world a better place and me a better person. Big hugs. 💕💕
Thanks so much for this post!
I’m honored that Mark Lukach ( “My Lovely Wife in the Psych Ward”) is endorsing my book
“Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder” which is on Amazon for pre-sales & will be published in October by Post Hill Press.
I was thrilled to read about your appreciation of those of us who write down our stories!
Reading that made me feel so good because it’s rare to read such a lovely statement like that.
I wish you and your family the very best.
Thanks again from the bottom of my heart,